Saturday, December 24, 2011

I Love You, But I Don't Really Like You Right Now.

My mom used to say "I love you, but I don't really like you" to me all the time. It stuck with me. I kind of get that statement now.
Ugh...I debated about writing this it being Christmas Eve and all. But OHMYGOSH!!! The Diva has been out of school since Wednesday. She doesn't go back to school until JANUARY 3RD!!!!!
She is a good kid. She is strong willed. She is stubborn. She is creative. She is sensitive. She is dramatic. She is a complete joy. She is majorly excited about Christmas.
In addition to her excitement I have been letting her stay up late since she hasn't had school. If there is one thing about this child that has never changed. She has to have her sleep. She is a bear if she doesn't have it. I should learn.
Yesterday was trying. She wasn't listening. She was back talking and I was having to remind her a lot that her brother's were babies and she could hurt them. Today. Today was no better. She was in rare form. The high point was when I took her to get her fingernails and toe nails painted at a salon. Special treat right? It all started out well enough. Aunt Bets had found a new salon to try. They had special chairs for kids to sit in while they were pampered. It was a very big deal. I was getting my nails and toes done as well. Of course the Diva finished before me. There was a little boy there and she started playing with him. As I was finishing up I told her to get her shoes and socks on because we needed to go. She started yelling and throwing a fit in the middle of the salon because she didn't want to leave. I tried to keep my composure. I calmly told her I would be happy to leave her there. She didn't like that. She put her shoes and socks on and grabbed her coat. She then asked me for my cell phone so she could play games on it in the car. I told her no. She then proceed to STOMP HER FOOT and yell at me and ask WHY?! Really? This child just asked why and she is behaving like that. I told her it was because she was yelling at me and it was time to go. On the way home she didn't say a word. I made her go upstairs for "quiet time" when we got home. The rest of the evening has gone about the same. Her yelling, not listening and throwing fits. Mr. Mayer and I finally threatened her with Santa not coming to the house to get her to take a shower and pick up some toys. *Sigh* She is sleeping now. I made her go to bed a little early. Mean? Maybe. But, this Mama is worn out and tomorrow is going to be a very big day. However, after she goes to bed she normally comes downstairs once or twice for additional hugs and kisses and we can hear her playing around upstairs. We haven't heard a peep from her tonight. I'm sure she as was asleep as soon as she got still tonight.

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

2nd Child Syndrome


I have always been told that attitudes change and parenting styles change when you have your second child. I have never considered myself to be an uptight parent. When I had Diva I thought I was pretty laid back. Looking back now that impression is wrong.
Looking at my current situation I realize that what I was told about the "second child" really is true. Some examples:
When Diva was a baby if she had drool, spit up, dirt of any kind on her clothes I changed her.
Now...Shrek and Donkey have to be looking pretty bad to get their clothes changed. Or have poo on them. My first thought is I don't want the extra laundry. Good enough and not pristine is okay with me. 
When Diva was a baby her eating times were very scheduled and I was very particular about what I would let her eat. I followed all the guidelines about when she could have milk, nuts, honey, etc.
Now...I'm pretty sure the Dudes had peanut butter somewhere around 8 months. I take the "if they can gum it they can eat it" approach. 
When Diva was a baby I only let her eat puffs or plain Cheerios. And she always had to eat in her  highchair.
Now...the Dudes had a cereal mix of Fruit Loops and Peanut Butter cereal in their snack cups this afternoon. I figure if it makes them happy and makes the crying stop. I'm game. And, snack cups are great. If they want to sit in the floor and eat their snack go for it. The dogs will clean up the big pieces. 
Also~ Diva was nearly 2 before I ever let her have juice.
Shrek and Donkey had juice before their first birthday. It's not a regular thing, but they do get juice. 
When Diva was a baby I was militant about changing her diaper. And I always used wipes and and wiped her thoroughly. I clearly remember one time my MIL changed Diva's wet diaper and did not use a wipe. I was horrified.
Now...If it's just wet I don't use a wipe about half the time. And, I have been known to let them wear the same diaper, knowing it was wet, for a while before I change it. Don't judge me. It's a lot of work to change their diaper. 
If I sat here long enough and thought about it I could probably come up with an impressive list. One thing this shows me though is that I can relax a little and my kids are still going to be happy and thriving children. There have been no ill effects from letting them eat Fruit Loops or not always using a wipe when I change their diaper.

Action Packed Week...

What is it about this time of year? The time seems to fly by and my schedule seems to get crammed. I do it to myself. I could say no to a few play dates, parties, and other holiday festivities. The problem is that I want to give my kids the full holiday experience. So I pack our schedules with cookie decorating, parties, Santa Claus, looking at Christmas Lights, etc. I don't want them to miss a thing. This past week was no exception. That weekend we had been out of town visiting my family and came back Sunday evening. We hit the ground on Monday with physical therapy appointments at the crack of dawn. I took Shrek and Donkey in for evals on their crooked little feet. The Physical Therapist suggested we go see an Orthopedist, but that the boys feet and legs should straighten out in the next couple of years. I hope so. I don't want my babies to be pigeoned toed forever. That afternoon I had to take Diva to have an ultra sound. She had been so sick and had such a high fever for so long there was a possibility that she could have kidney damage. We had an ultra sound done to make sure she was okay. She had a minor freak out when the tech put the "blue jell-o" on her tummy. Diva did not like that. At all. After she calmed down she was her normal giggly self. The ultra sound showed her kidney's were fine and there was no damage from her infection and fever! Whoo Hoo! Tuesday it was dentist appointments and a few stops for last minute gifts. Wednesday we had some appliances installed and Mr. Mayer's work party that evening. I wasn't too excited about going to the party. But~ it turned out to be a lot of fun and it was nice to get out of the house. And take a shower. That was nice too. After the party Mr. Mayer and I went and had coffee since we had an hour left with our babysitter. Can't go home early!!!
Thursday I decided to start Pilates and did my intro, then the Dudes had a play date with a a friend and her sweet twin boys. They are 2 weeks younger than Shrek and Donkey. The personality differences in the boys amaze me. My friends little guys are so laid back and calm. Shrek and Donkey were definitely the more wound up of the group. That night some friends came over for dinner and to play. We had a great time. We are planning to get together for pizza and touring the lights at Rhema sometime this week. Friday we had errands and some catch up around the house. Diva had gotten greens at school all week and has been doing really well with her temper tantrums. As a reward I took her to see Alvin and the Chipmunks Chipwrecked. It was a very big deal. She got to go to a movie theater and have her very own popcorn. So exciting. Saturday the Diva danced at a nursing home. She did great. She got to wear a skirt that had bells on the end of it. She thought she was hot stuff.

That evening some friends came over and we let the kids decorate Christmas cookies.
They had a great time. I'm not sure how much icing ended up on the cookies, but judging by their faces the kids had plenty of icing in their tummies. Sunday we did lunch and a gift exchange with our family.

Monday we had another play date with 3 sets of twins and their fantastic Mommies (Schluter's , Walter's and Hogle's).




















The Dudes had a great time playing. It is always fun to see them interact with other kids their age. I worry that they will be their only friends and they won't know how to act around other kids. They don't cease to amaze me. They did fantastic with the other kids. And...saying there were 4 sets of twins (ages 15 months to 23 months) and their Mommies seems like a lot, but everything went smoothly. At least I thought so. We had a great time.
That afternoon Diva had her class party at school.

The kids made snowmen and had cookies and milk for their snack. Then they heard a story and got some fun goody bags. They were beside themselves with excitement. Then after school she had a party at dance. Everyone brought a special treat to the party. Diva took gingerbread. It's a holiday favorite around here. Tuesday....Tuesday was a lazy stay in my sweat pants kind of day. Diva and I did a little Target shopping and had a Starbucks date with a friend of mine, but that's it. It was perfect.
This week is shaping up to be a little calmer. I'm very excited about Christmas. I can't wait for the kids to get up and see their Santa gifts and open their presents. Last year Mr. Mayer and I woke up extra early on Christmas morning so that we could be there when Diva saw her stocking for the first time. I'm sure that we will do the same thing this year. I can't wait.

Monday, December 5, 2011

Christmas Card

Yup...that's the one.
We had a "photo shoot" yesterday in the living room. Owen has an aversion to photography. The camera comes out and he starts crying. I decided not to fight it this time.
Here are a few of our other pictures...









Friday, December 2, 2011

15 Month Stats

Well the dudes had their 15 month check up this morning. A big thank you to my friend Amy and KiKi for helping me wrangle them at the doctor's office!! Gosh they are getting big! Carter has felt rotten for 2 days. They have both had snotty noses and a little bit of a cough so I wasn't sure if they would have to have shots this morning. No fear~ they got shot. I hate that.
Here are the stats as of this morning....
Owen
Weight: 22.6 lbs~ 22%
Height: 31 inches~ 48%
Head: 47cm~ 46%

Carter
Weight: 24.8 lbs~ 51%
Height: 31 1/2 inches~ 63%
Head: 47cm~ 46%

What they are up to....
Busy.Busy.Busy.
I'm exhausted.
The past few days they have been playing with each other, a little. Kind of. It counts right?
Owen has been doing things to get a laugh lately. It's funny. He will stick things in his mouth or on his head and walk around and make sure you see him. When you laugh he will take it out/off and start laughing himself. It's so cute.
They both run for the door to go "bye bye" when I get my purse. They both L-O-V-E to go "bye bye."
Words...still a lot of gibberish and then they look at me expectantly like I know exactly what they said. They say bye bye, hi, yum, no, yay, yes, night night, mama, dada, nana...I'm sure there are some I'm missing. Terrible of me.
Running...everywhere. Big runners.
Clapping~ Carter started today completely unprompted sitting in the corner playing by himself. Owen will very soon.
Outside. They love outside. Unfortunately with all the crappy weather and germs that have been living in my house we haven't gotten to go outside much.
Climbing. Carter is a climber. On everything. Lately he's been taking things into his room and stacking it next to his brother's crib and trying to climb in. Today he took his vacuum cleaner in there and climbed on top of it and tried to get in the crib. None of this stuff is ever big enough for him to climb in. Yet. I'm expecting that soon he will be able to crawl in. Just.a.matter.of.time.
Sleep is better. Carter still fights it usually. For example tonight he cried and moaned for an hour before going to sleep. I go in after 15 or 20 minutes and check on him. After that I don't always go in there. I'm terrible. I know. I feel terrible but he usually gets more upset after I've gone in there. Either way I feel terrible.
I've tried moving them to one nap a day a couple of times. It's great until about 4 pm. Then they fall apart for the next couple of hours. It's not worth it. We are still on 2 naps a day.
They are doing so much and changing so much every day. I'm sure I have forgotten some of the things to share. Right now I can't think of it.
They are at a fun age. There has been a lot of laughter in our house lately.
As a side note...We have an elf. Olivia named her Alyssa. Carter discovered her while eating breakfast yesterday. He was talking his head off to her so I took a picture.